How can we make headway towards overcoming fear of failure? In today’s world, so many people are crippled by a fear of failure that never allows them to make any progress towards their goals… When we fail to achieve our goals individually due to fear, it causes a ripple effect into society that results in collective progress stagnating due to a collective level of fear. When this is viewed at the macro level, it is seen as a blight on our society that affects us from the individual and spans out to the collective level of consciousness.
Kim Fiske helps individuals navigate through fear of failure as they move towards accomplishing the goals they have for their life! Kim is the author of the book “The Monster Under The Bed”. She has worked to help folks overcome and navigate their fears as they move in a healthier direction in their life. Her extensive research into the science behind how our mind is programmed has resulted in her developing an excellent perspective around HOW fears are hard-wired into our brain from a young age… More importantly, Kim has found some ways to re-program our brains around success, courage, and abundance.
On today’s show, we are going to talk about fear of failure and how to navigate through this storm on the way to becoming courageous! We dive into discussing some creative solutions for navigating our fears. When we get creative, it activates parts of our brain that are more receptive to taking action and having fun instead of falling into procrastination and stagnation.
Fear exists along a spectrum… The principle of polarity is always at work in our universe… Fear can be transmuted into courage through an understanding of what’s possible. When we achieve a balanced perspective towards fear, it begins to look less scary.
Let’s help you overcome and navigate fear of failure! It doesn’t have to hinder you forever 🙂
The idea of loving our enemies has puzzled philosophers, theologians, and people for thousands of years since Jesus Christ originally suggested the idea…
In fact, if we examine the history of Christianity, it seems that there is a whole lot of hatred, blood, and persecution against the enemies of the church. Whether it is the Crusades, the Pope becoming a ruler of most of Florence and sending armies to destroy his enemies, or Christian justifications for slavery during the United States Civil War, it seems like this teaching of “love your enemies” has been thrown in the trash can by most of those practicing the belief system. What happened?
Throughout my time growing up in the Christian church, I felt pretty confused by the amount of judgment hurled towards fellow Christians and those who did not “believe in Jesus”. It seemed pretty hypocritical. For the majority of the time I spent in Christianity, a great deal of effort was put towards teaching us how to behave, how to convert non-believers, how to ensure we did not lose favor with God, and the signs to look for in fellow Christians that might help us determine if they needed to be confronted over some supposed wrongdoing. Of course, all out of “love” for that individual. I began to question if this is what Jesus really meant when he said to “love your enemies”… It seemed hairy to say the least.
In order to really love your enemies, a person must begin to cultivate empathy. What is empathy? Essentially, it is this idea of placing ourselves in another’s position… Seeing the world through their eyes and understanding that there are logical reasons behind their actions. No one in the world arrives at their conclusions from an illogically formed idea. It is important to note: we might disagree with their reasons. This is normal and possibly even worthy of encouragement! When we disagree with one another, we build on the collective beliefs of the past and move our species forward into an elevated state of consciousness by hashing out ideas in the collective consciousness. This is why the internet is so powerful. However, to engage in this level of conversation, we must first understand and empathize that every human arrives at their decisions through a logical and relatable set of circumstances.
Daniel Roberts hosts a podcast called “Unmake My Enemy”. On this episode of the show, Daniel and I talk about the idea of loving our enemies. We discuss terrorism, religious fundamentalism, and how to apply the teachings of Jesus from a secular perspective. Daniel and I were raised together in the same homeschool group while also attending the same church. It is always a pleasure to connect with folks from the past only to find that they have walked a similar road. Check out this show:
Daniel and I talk about the power of empathy. In order to love your enemies, a healthy dose of understanding is what the world needs. For instance, terrorists are oftentimes treated as scum of the earth and absolutely inhumane mongrels who deserve the very worst. However, when we take the time to learn about WHY someone becomes a terrorist in their specific country, oftentimes the reasons are quite logical. For example, in Ancient Rome, there was a terrorist organization known as the “Zealots” who responded violently to Roman occupation of the Middle East. They would assassinate Roman rulers, conduct guerrilla attacks against Roman soldiers, and carry out kidnappings and rapes against Roman citizens. Obviously, in the eyes of the occupying Romans, these Zealots were seen as the scum of the Earth. They were terrorists. When caught, Zealots were crucified without a second thought. However, to the Zealots, they were freedom fighters. They were defending their families against Roman invaders. In the grand scheme of history, Zealots believed that they would be remembered as heroes who (hopefully) would drive the Roman devils from their homeland.
When we observe stories like those of the Zealots through the timeline of history, we can understand the logical reasons behind why they do the things they did. We might read our history books and say “yeah, I see how a Zealot initiate might feel as if they were the good guys”. However, in the same breath, we might talk about how ISIS or Al-Quaeda are demons who need to be wiped from the face of the Earth. Now, just to be clear, I am by no means attempting to justify the actions of terrorists. However, I believe it is essential that if we want to end terrorism, we must empathize and understand why someone would become a terrorist… Are they scum? Are they degenerates? Are they less-than human? When we dive into the pages of our history or psychology textbooks, we arrive at the answer being a solid “No”. Oftentimes, they are engaging in a logical train of thinking that leads them towards making the horrible decision of becoming a terrorist.
It’s an ancient saying that “one man’s terrorist is another man’s freedom fighter”.
So how can we love terrorists? How can we love those who bomb buildings, shoot up cities, and assassinate or kidnap members of our society?
It all begins in understanding that other people are the same as us.
It is difficult (to say the least) for me as an American to imagine myself committing acts of terrorism against my countrymen. In my eyes, this is an act of pure evil. The perpetrators of such actions must be violent degenerates who should be shot on site… Right?
Well, when we read some history books about the region, we begin to see how there are many reasons for why a Middle Eastern individual might end up becoming a member of a terrorist organization. In their eyes, it is impossible to imagine themselves supplying weapons and promises to the Mujahideen only to disappear and leave you struggling once the Soviet threat was eliminated.
Similarly, if you are a young man in Iraq who decides to join ISIS, you might not be able to understand how someone could ever send robotic airplanes that bomb weddings and kill innocents. In your eyes, those who vote for such actions must be violent degenerates who should be shot on site… Right?
I hope you see the point I’m trying to make: loving our enemies means putting ourselves in their shoes.
When that happens, we can begin to understand why war and violence happen in the first place. Typically, the perpetrators of violence have been harmed themselves. They are victims of trauma that oftentimes can be traced back to us. The endless cycle of war and violence will not end until we collectively come together and say “enough is enough” and refuse to do no more harm and inflict no more killing on one another. War and violence are patterns that are asking to be ended and cleared from our collective consciousness. We have only ourselves to blame for their perpetuation. If we attempt a collective solution, we may be surprised at the result. When we find ourselves inflicting no harm, we may find that no harm returns to us.
Meditation is increasing in popularity as the internet expands. More people are asking today “How do meditate”? By evolving the collective mind around meditation and encouraging more beginners to start meditating, we can create a more peaceful collective society that has all the benefits of meditation at the collective level. This is a powerful movement that needs guidance and help as more beginners start to learn how to meditate. By helping one another learn the basics of meditation, we can increase the collective movement towards peace, love, happiness, low-stress, and all the benefits that meditation has to offer.
What are the benefits of meditation? Here are a few:
Lower blood pressure.
Clarity of thinking.
Meditation everyday has been shown to produce a host of benefits. There’s also studies such as the Maharishi Effect which examine meditation at a larger scale. In this series of studies, groups of meditation clinics were facilitated throughout cities. During the weeks that the large-scale meditation events occurred, crime and violence decreased across the city. These tests were repeated and tested against one another to determine effectiveness and the overwhelming results were that when large numbers of folks were engaged in meditation, crime and violence across the city decreased. The ramifications for the collective mind are massive when it comes to meditation. Learning how to meditate could very well become a matter of public health and safety at the collective level, not to be underestimated.
So, what are some great meditation techniques for beginners?
Here’s an episode of the show where I explored this topic:
Let’s dive into how to meditate!
Meditation Techniques For Beginners
Meditation does not have to be difficult. Here are some of the easiest methods of meditation useful for a beginner whose just looking to learn how to meditate without getting too fancy or taking up a large period of time and energy. Truthfully, meditation can be time consuming at the higher levels of the art. However, this is not necessary to enjoy the numerous benefits of meditation. If you are just looking to get started, 5-20 minutes per day is all that is needed. Start with just 5 minutes a day and expand from there!
Here are some beginner friendly techniques to get started.
Guided meditation is one of the easiest ways for someone to get started meditating. In today’s world, there are thousands of videos available on YouTube to help someone learn how to meditate easily. Check out this video by Louise Hay… It is one of my absolute favorite guided meditations!
Guided meditation is great for beginners because it is simple! Just find a comfortable place to sit or lie down, put on the guided meditation, and follow the instructions. If you only have a certain period of time to meditate, it is easy to find a guided meditation that suits your time-frame. However, if you find a longer one that you enjoy, just set a timer on your phone and end the meditation a bit early… It is no big deal! The important thing is just getting started learning how to meditate.
Just Sit And Breathe!
One of the simplest methods for someone learning how to meditate is to simply sit and breathe! Yep, that’s it!
Just take a seat or lay down in your bed, set a timer, and breathe in and out through your nose.
If you can, try and count to seven on your inhale and count to seven on your exhale. In and out of your nose. Focus on your breathing. If your mind begins to wander, just bring your attention back to your breathing…. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 seconds in…. pause…. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 seconds out… pause…. repeat 🙂 Easy as that!
Wim Hof Breathing
Although this might seem like a more complex meditation technique when you first see it, I have found that the Wim Hof Method for breathing is an excellent introduction to breath work in general. The Wim Hof Method for breathing begins with 30 breaths in and out of your mouth. After the 30 breaths, you hold your breath for as long as you can. After you cannot hold your breath any longer, you do another 30 breaths in and out of your mouth. The trick is to inhale MORE than you exhale. When you exhale, just allow a small amount of air to leave your body… As little as possible! This is an amazingly effective technique. Although it is usually done while seated, I typically do the Wim Hof Method while laying down… That is what feels good for me!
Watch this video for an instruction from Wim Hof himself:
The Wim Hof Method is amazingly effective in general. I highly recommend checking out everything that Wim Hof is doing to promote health using breathing, cold water therapy, and Yoga. It is a really effective model that has helped me enormously over the years. Just take the breathing nice and easy and do not stress over how long you can hold your breath.
Meditation Techniques Pt. 2.
Meditation has a long history of use. Over thousands of years, our species has created countless different ways to meditate. If you are just learning how to meditate, follow one of the three methods above for the easiest point of entry. However, if you are a more accomplished meditator, here are a few techniques that are a bit more advanced!
Shamanic Drum Meditation
Lately, I have become a big fan of attending Shamanic Drum Meditation ceremonies! I have been attending the drum ceremonies that the band Amalghemy holds in St. Louis and getting a lot of benefit from these experiences. If you are interested in exploring Shamanic Drum Meditation, I encourage you to find a place in your own local area where you can have a Live Experience of this modality.
Shamanic Drum Meditation is a powerful method because it helps drown out the voice of your own internal chatter. By silencing this voice, it is much easier for you to disappear into a deep state of meditation that will have a profound impact.
Lately I have been learning more about a system of breathing called Transformational Breathwork. This is a style of breathing that induces a deep state of meditation that helps to enter into the subconscious mind and begin to re-program limiting beliefs. It is a way to detoxify the body. The first time that I tried this method, I ended up sweating quite a bit! It emptied by body of toxins that were being held onto.
Here’s how it works: lay on your back with your head flat. If possible, place a pillow underneath your knees to elevate them slightly off the ground. Once you are comfortable, open your mouth as wide as possible. Once it is open, begin breathing in and out of your mouth in a circular fashion. Do not pause. Breathe in through your mouth 1,2,3,4,5 and then immediately out through your mouth 1,2,3,4,5… Keep it going in a circle with no break in between.
Recommended time for Transformational Breathwork is 45 minutes. However, if you are shorter on time, try to do 100 breaths! This should take about 10-15 minutes total. At the end of your breaths, hold your breath for as long as you can!
I have found this to be a powerful method to experience a deep meditation. I do this every morning and its been life changing.
If you are interested in the more “traditional” forms of meditate, learning how to do Mantra is a powerful form of learning how to meditate. Mantra is a type of phrase that is chanted repeatedly to focus your mind. Although this does not have to be the case, Mantra is oftentimes in another language like Sanskrit.
Here is an example of Mantra meditation:
Essentially, Mantra meditation allows for the quieting of the mind as we focus on the specific word or phrase that is being chanted by the meditator. It is a short and simple method to gain some awareness around ourselves and experience a level of inner peace. If you are looking to learn how to meditate, many folks enjoy learning about Mantra meditation as their conduit for having an experience with their most peaceful selves.
The collective consciousness has suffered a great deal of trauma.
Think about it: our species has endured a great deal of trauma and suffering over they centuries of existence. Dating back to antiquity, we have fended off wolves, sabertooth tigers, and (unfortunately) one another.
In today’s world, we have all the opportunity to move past this trauma. Finally, we have achieved a state of abundance and prosperity where its possible for our species to begin moving into a better future. It is now more likely that we can start overcoming trauma and move through the darkness of previous years into a more abundant future. There is much to explore and enjoy, even in the face of bitter hardship that still rages around the world.
There is so much we can enjoy once we begin overcoming trauma at the collective level. However, in order to facilitate that healing, we must help each other from a place of empathy and strength. Once we learn and accept that everyone is battling with the same demons and problems, we can grow from empathy of another’s position in the world. We can heal collectively and move into the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible. Finally, we can be as one whole.
Overcoming Trauma Individually
Trauma in a variety of forms is holding back our world. What is trauma? Effectively, an emotional state where a person is unable to step into and become the individual they are meant to be due to immense hardship suffered. Psychologically, traumatic incidents can be not fully processed by the brain due to the severity of the incident. When this happens, it can lead to the development of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) because the brain is unable to process the event due to the severe trauma. When this happens, it can result in the brain remaining in a state where it believes that the incident is still happening at that moment, even if it happened many years before.
Overcoming trauma necessitates a societal movement towards collective healing. In truth, our entire society is traumatized in one way or another due to our disconnection with nature and our thrust towards a more anxious and stressful world that we all desperately want to overcome.
How do we collectively heal from trauma?
Starting from a place of love and compassion can help lead us towards ultimate healing from trauma. When we understand how important it is to empathize with another’s experience, we can begin to collectively heal and start overcoming trauma. When this happens at a collective level, we can free ourselves to move forward toward a better horizon.
On this episode of Beyond Homo Sapien, I talk to Jacque Ecuyer about overcoming trauma. Jacque is a life-coach and specialist in this area who helps folks move past trauma whether it be emotional trauma, overcoming childhood trauma, or a variety of other issues the client may have suffered.
On this show, we are talking about overcoming trauma and how this can collectively heal ourselves from our previous wounds. Jacque shared his own story of overcoming trauma in his own life and revealed the importance of a man tapping into his own emotional strength. Throughout history, men have been incorrectly taught to stifle and hide emotions and operate from a place of lesser emotional intelligence. Unfortunately, folks have been told that this is how a man can be “strong”. However, when we dive into the real issues behind a person’s emotional development, we realize that true strength comes from confronting demons and overcoming our own personal trauma. By doing so, we become a powerful role model for others. This is real strength.
Overcoming Cancer, PTSD, And More
Ryan Matthews is a man whose come back from seemingly insurmountable odds.
In the last decade, Ryan has battled cancer, a heart attack, PTSD, losing his business, going through divorce, and serving a jail sentence.
Ryan has emerged from these hardships as a strong and capable person looking to help others through the art of dog-training. Ryan is also seeking to share his message in the hopes it will inspire others to overcome their own personal demons.
On this show, we talked about the importance of facing our fears head-on. Ryan did not fully recover from his hardships until he realized that PTSD and his mental health issues were the root problem behind the rest of his issues. Once he isolated this problem and began to work on his mental health, everything changed for Ryan.
This show is one for anyone looking to overcome the seemingly impossible in their lives.
Personal development is a broad concept by nature.
When you ask 10 people what “personal development” or “self growth” means, you will get 10 different answers…
Here’s how I’m going to define “personal development”: an individual’s attempts and processes to improve themselves mentally, physically, and spiritually. Mind, body, spirit.
In regards to human evolution, personal development is one of the most important aspects! In order for our species to ascend into the future, become interplanetary, and achieve our full spiritual awakening and fulfillment, we have to achieve success in three pillars of personal development: mind, body, and spirit.
Let’s dive into a few specific areas!
Personal Development Through Financial Turmoil
Personal growth often happens when we experience an intense period of turmoil and hardship…
Self development stories that involve a person overcoming immense hardship to achieve a goal are the most inspiring for a reason: they speak to the true strength of the human spirit… The ability that is within ourselves to overcome obstacles and thrive. Andrew Stotz is a financial investor and coach who hosts a podcast called “My Worst Investment Ever”.
Here is our conversation. Andrew and I talk about some of the worst investments made by people who have been guests on his show. We also dive into the process of recovering emotionally from financial struggle and the deeply personal process of self growth that happens as a result of financial hardship. Additionally, we cover some ground about the actual tactical side of investing. If you are someone interested in expanding your financial growth, this is a great episode to watch:
Andrew’s show is a collection of case studies of folks making a terrible investment, losing a ton of money, and then coming back from that decision. On today’s episode of Beyond Homo Sapien, we are going to talk about the personal growth that happens following a period of financial turmoil. For many people around the world, overcoming financial hardship is an almost insurmountable mountain. On the show I did with Andrew, we talk about how to climb that mountain.