How To Change Your Life
In 2020, we have an opportunity for a new way.
Let us join together in unified purpose and create the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible. In our world, we are much more alike than we are different. We all want happiness for our families, good health, food and shelter, and spiritual fulfillment. When we take a moment and realize that all of humanity is engaged in the SAME struggle, we can begin to rectify our world as a team instead of squabbling over the scraps of a nuclear wasteland. The time for change is now.
If you are going through a period of transition and intense change, you are not alone! Changing your life does not have to be difficult.
I know what it is like… I’ve been through divorce, leaving a religious cult, joining the military, starting a business, changing careers, and a host of other craziness. At multiple times, I was confronted with the difficulty of changing my life completely.
Here’s what I have found:
When you are going through a period of intense change and transformation, you NEED a toolkit of reliable practices and resources that you KNOW will get you to the other side.
I’m talking about:
- A morning routine
- An EVENING routine
- Healthy diet
- Healing plants
- Spiritual practices
- And of course: a COMMUNITY!
On this episode of the Beyond Homo Sapien Podcast, I breakdown the details about how to change your life completely by developing a toolkit of amazing resources!
How To Change Your Life Completely
If you want an entirely different existence, you need to take responsibility of the choices you have made up to this point.
The life that you have TODAY is a direct result of the thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, and actions that you carry as you go through life. If you hangout with people who are bringing you down to their level, then you need to find some different “friends”. Instead of blaming other people, take responsibility for your physical experiences and you will be well on your way to changing your life completely.
Sometimes, we experience tragedy. In these cases, life can feel completely out of our control. We might feel like victims. In some cases, we might have indeed been a victim of a terrible crime or life circumstance. However, we cannot live our lives as victims. Eventually, it is time to grow, heal, and move into a better reality. Set a resolution to change your life and move past whatever trauma you have had the misfortune of experiencing. You owe it to yourself to heal.
Human evolution can be beautiful if we lean into affluence, ease, and joy. Instead of choosing a path of pain, take charge of your life and decide to heal and progress.
If you want to change your life completely, you must assume responsibility. Make better choices. Hang out with kinder people. Set a standard for your life and do not accept anything that does not align with that vision. Instead of settling for some terrible job, take risks and make moves to position yourself for the career that your heart is calling you to do. Do not give way to fear. If you want to change your life and experience a new reality, you may have to change everything you are currently doing in favor of better habits.
Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life
Changing your life begins in the mind. If you are poisoning yourself with your thoughts, you will find yourself running in circles without end. Learn how to love yourself and create a better internal reality. As within, so without. If you are terrifying yourself constantly, then you will never be able to find true stillness and happiness. Instead of going down dark rabbit-holes of self-hate, choose to speak kindly to yourself.
Changing your thoughts leads to changing your beliefs. Once we carry different beliefs, we begin to feel differently. When we are feeling powerful, confident, and capable, we take empowered actions that are aligned with our true soul calling. This is the secret to manifestation. We must combine a cultivated and healed internal reality with ACTION inside of the material plane. Instead of spending our days chasing the life of a renunciate, choose to make a difference here on Earth. After all, we are all in this together and the world needs heroes here in 2020.
So how does a person go about taking actions that will change their lives forever?
How To Change Your Life With Habits
Routines and habits make us into who we are.
The practices, foods, exercises, drinks, and substances we engage with every day create who we are and how we can help others. If we exist in habits of sickness and disease, we cannot truly help those in need. We must become the examples that are needed if we are going to change our lives and help the world evolve into something better.
Want to change your life for real? How about implementing a morning routine that helps you get in the zone for your day.
It can be easy. A morning routine does not need to include jumping through hoops, lifting weights for hours, or going for long runs. Make it simple enough that you will do it every single day.
Here is a quick routine that works for me when I’m in a rush:
- Wake up, brush teeth.
- CHUG a bunch of water. At least one liter.
- Make coffee.
- While coffee is going, do 5 minutes of Yoga poses and maybe some pushups.
- While coffee is cooling, close eyes and take some deep breaths. 5 minutes of meditation.
- Drink coffee, do a bit of journaling, get dressed.
- Get out the door!
It takes about 30 minutes from wakeup to leaving the house. Personally, I have found that breakfast does not work well with my body. If I eat food before noon, I feel sluggish the rest of the day. When I let my body fast in the morning, my energy levels are MUCH higher. You might find the same but experiment with your food schedule and see what works for your life.
If you do not know how to meditate, watch this video!
If I have a longer time in the morning, here is the full routine:
- Wake up, brush teeth.
- CHUG a bunch of water. At least one liter.
- Make bulletproof coffee with butter, MCT oil, cacao, maca powder, cayenne pepper, cinnamon, and nutmeg. Delicious.
- Do 5-15 minutes of Yoga and bodyweight movements. Maybe some cartwheels or handstands.
- Drink coffee and do some journaling. Write out my to-do list for the day. Pick 3 things from my to-do list that are the most important items. Write out what I’m thankful for in my life.
- Pull some tarot cards and do a reading for myself.
- Meditate for 5-15 minutes.
- Read a book until I’m bored.
- Watch a documentary on Netflix or maybe a show on HBO for a minute. Wake my brain up a bit more. Set a relaxed tone for the day.
- Drink some more coffee.
A great routine will get you ramped up for the day and ready to MOVE!
You can also have an evening routine! If you are looking to change your life completely, then you might also want to look into creating an evening routine that gets you ready for bed. Here is mine:
- Do some Yoga.
- Drink a sleepy-time tea.
- Go outside and look at the stars to remind my brain that it is night-time.
- Brush teeth. Drink lots of water.
- Get my essential oil diffuser going with some peppermint or lavender oil.
- Watch a documentary or HBO show until I fall asleep.
It might take you five minutes.
Of course, I am just listing out my routines to give you ideas. A routine is personal to you and should focus around how you can best change your life around in a way that creates more momentum for your day. When you get out the door feeling great, your whole day is already won. Whatever happens next is just extra on top.
Changing Your Life Takes Commitment To Goals
Want to make a real change?
Set a goal that makes you nervous.
For me, it was podcasting and starting this brand. When I first started, I committed to six months of doing this show every day. Although I missed a day here and there, I stayed the course. As a result, my entire life changed. Let me tell you a bit about what happened:
It all began when I got an email from my mentor, Miles Beckler…
He was talking about this new mastermind group he was opening up for entrepreneurs looking to start and scale a brand. At the time, I was doing freelance marketing jobs to make some extra money. Although the money was coming in, I was unhappy. I felt stuck, unmotivated, and lost in a wasteland of shiny objects and fake gurus.
I joined right away. The first prescription was a 90-day content marketing challenge where we were required to do a blog, video, or podcast every day for at least 90 days. Feeling crazy, I committed to six months.
At the time, I FELT that the Podcast and Beyond Homo Sapien brand was the right move. However, the “logical” side of my brain was convincing me to try and do more freelance work as a digital marketer. Regardless, I needed a plan because I was set to leave the US Army shortly.
When I found that the first “prescription” was a 90-day content challenge, I felt relief. It was important confirmation that the voice of my intuition was correct: Beyond Homo Sapien was the move I was meant to make.
At the time, I was still emotionally recovering from my divorce. For months after that time, I spent my days in depression and lack of fulfillment in all areas of my life. I was completely alone and had no friends in the local area. Entrepreneurial activities was what I was using to distract myself from my pain (unknowingly at the time).
However, the idea of diving headfirst into the podcast brought me back to life.
Instead of a 90 day challenge, I committed to six months.
Although I missed a day here and there, I stayed the course.
At the end, I had a COMPLETELY different life unlike the one I had before.
Here’s the catch: I did not make a ton of money, I did not become world famous, I did not become best friends with Joe Rogan or Elon Musk.
Instead, something MUCH better happened.
I met the love of my life. A girl that warms my heart and shows me love unlike anything I have ever experienced. We have been together a year and it’s looking like we are going to be together for the rest of our days. Both of us were involved in miserable marriages so we have PHDs in what love does NOT look like… This ones real.
How did we meet? She’s the best friend of someone who I interviewed on the podcast as a part of my challenge. When I arrived for our in-person interview, they were hanging out and we all had a great time. A surprise snowstorm meant that I had to spend the night and we became close. We’ve been together as best friends and then lovers ever since. Could not be happier with how things are going.
Additionally, I ended up expanding my network into the stars. Compared with where I was before the show, I probably quadrupled my network. It’s amazing what happens when you interview someone almost every day for 6 months straight.
As a result of that networking, I bought a house! At the time, I was looking around for a property and finding NOTHING. Someone I met as a result of the challenge introduced me to an amazing real estate agent. As a result, I live in the beautiful 12 room house in the Ozarks where I’m writing this post. It’s an amazing house that was built in the late 1800s. I’ve got some great tenants and we are planning some live events on the half-acre property. Again, could not be happier.
Having this house meant moving to a new community where I AGAIN expanded my network even more than before. This time, my network is more in-person than online (although I’ve still maintained the online network I created via the podcast interviews). Out here, I’ve formed personal connections with Native American medicine men, farmers, hippies, crystal hunters, entrepreneurs, musicians, and all the amazingly odd folks who are drawn to the beauty and magic of the Ozarks. My days of loneliness and NO community are LONG gone.
If that wasn’t enough, a few of the people I interviewed on the podcast have become my best friends. A few of them have come and stayed for a few weeks out at the house. One person (an experienced marketer) even lived with me for four months and she’s now one of my closest friends and business connections.
I’m looking for full time work now that I’m out of the Army. So far, my network has proved invaluable in that process and I should have something very soon. Again, the podcast has proved very useful and has already landed me a few job interviews as direct results of guests I’ve had on the show recently.
The commitment I made to my goals totally changed my life. Suddenly, it was clear that I existed in a new reality wherein the rules worked differently. I believe that when we set a big goal and really COMMIT, we show “god” or “the universe” or your “higher self” (or whatever resonates for you) that you are serious. You are ready to change your life and make some moves.
If you are looking to change your life and you want some help, make sure you check out the Phoenix program. Inside, you will find a committed team of mentors and peers to help guide you into the new version of yourself you want to experience. Instead of floundering in the wastelands without help, sign up to play as a team and get ahead together. It is time!